Do you have kids who are facing the problem of bullying at school or at the workplace? Bullying is a very common thing in almost all spheres of spaces. In this post, we will talk about how you or your child can tackle it. Read on.
We all experience some form of bullying in almost all the spaces. It is a common phenomenon which if not tackled well can lead to psychological issues later in life.
Constant bullying can lead to having traumatic consequences, especially for a child. It can lead to abnormal behaviour, anxiety, to poor school performance as well. Hence, it is important to face bullying and the bully head on.
Now, first try to understand what bullying is all about. It is a repeated and an aggressive behaviour. It normally involves real or imagined power imbalance. No matter whether intentional or not, it ends up delivering physical and psychological harm to the other person.
It is mainly of three types. First, is by name-calling. It is the most common forms of bullying. It often is a rude taunt and also threats of violence. Second, is the exclusion of one from activities and embarrassing in front of others. And finally, there is physical bullying which includes slapping, hitting etc.
Now, the act of bullying can be done by anyone – a woman, a man, boy or a girl. It can happen anywhere – at the home, at the school, between siblings or even at the workplace. So, it’s not strictly a phenomenon of the school.
The source of a bully’s power is the other person’s lack of confidence. They will lose their grip over you if stand up and be confident. If you speak with self-confidence to them, they might start respecting you and also change their behaviour around you. Be as firm as possible and that may do the trick.
A mechanism used by the bully is to make the victims feel alone and powerless. So, the best way, especially for a child, is to make more friends and stay connected. It helps as with more friends one feels safe and also gains self-confidence to face the bully.
Use of Language
Experts also suggest that it is advisable to use an assertive tone and an unemotional one. This means to let the bully know that you are affected by his/her behaviour but you do not intend to remain a victim of his/her bullying.
Also, the trick is to remain calm and polite when dealing with bullies but also setting right limits. Do not let the bully get under your skin as that is what he/she wants. You can try practicing your response so you are prepared the next time you face your bully.
Act Quickly and Consistently
The power of the bully depends on how long the bully has power over a victim. As time grows, the power of the hold grows. So, it is advisable to confront your bully as early as possible. Usually the bully starts early by name-calling or teasing, so confront him/her here.
Be Cool and Bide Your Time
In some cases, it is also better to avoid the bully altogether and just wait till he/her gets bored. As exchanging hostilities might just result even harmer responses. So, it is better to have a cool head and try to meet the bully in a calmer environment and have a normal conversation.
While these tips are good and can help you but in case if they do not, then you need to step up and contact a person of authority. As continuing being bullied can lead to disastrous consequences.
These tips also do not address the person that is the bully. What situations and circumstances have made him/her the way they are? These questions are also important to ask as they are a product of our society. But this post cannot answer such questions. So, till then cheers and keep exploring yourself with Brainpundits!