Have you ever asked yourself, what is an education? Many people will answer that education is a. going to school; b. getting good marks, and c. eventually getting a degree that would end up getting you a job.
That is usually the understanding one has of it, no matter where you live in the world. Parents and peers alike tell you, and at times coerce you, to follow this educational setup in the society. But what if I tell you that this understanding of education is a narrow one, confined to the walls of a classroom.
I will tell you the story of education that is beyond and outside these walls. An education where marks are not the only markers of progress but overall personality development is.
An education where degrees are not important but experiencing the varying dynamics of life is. An education where there is no notion of failing as each moment is a learning experience which helps you be a better person.
Failing Behind Closed Doors
I remember during my years throughout school, I used to dread the idea of failing an exam. It’s a dread that we all have, even though we don’t know why failing is seen as such a huge deal. And then I ended up failing my 12th exam.
Little did I know that failing that exam would change the way I look at life and how I came to know about an alternative understanding of education. I stopped going to school after that as I took a break from walled education. I started to explore myself and also started to explore life in the outside world.
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Education 2.0 – Beyond the Classroom
The years I spent outside the classroom, are the actual years that I really learned about myself, about people and about life. I traveled, read books, and also started expressing myself, be it through articles or conversations.
I met and talked to different people in my journey and saw myself getting transformed from a shy-boy, who used to get tongue-tied when talking to people, to a confident man who loves initiating conversations. My curiosity to constantly explore the world led me to new paths.
All these experiences made me more emotionally stable and also open-minded to different ideas and perspectives. These experiences also made me more confident about handling problems that life could throw at me.
A Symbiotic Relationship
I became more assertive about my ideas and my curiosity grew and it eventually led me back to the classroom. But this time not only I was prepared for it, but I also knew what I wanted to study about in life. I did not let other people dictate my choices anymore.
I started reading History in detail to learn about India and how it has reached so far. I also read English literature to know about the subjective experiences of people and their lives. And I also started studying Political Science, a subject I would do my higher studies in, which made me realize about the rules of the society and how they govern the overall functioning of the society.
My experiences outside the classroom actually enabled me to do well inside the classroom. I began linking my experiences, from outside the classroom, with concepts and facts that I started to learn inside it. This made me realize the sheer importance of synergy between the two modes of learning. This symbiotic relationship between the two, I feel, is very important for the overall development of an individual and his/her personality.
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The problem I feel with the mainstream definition of education lies with importance to marks, and they were the markers of someone’s intelligence. But these marks do not define or even help a person’s personality development or even intelligence.
In fact, many have started questioning the very famous IQ test as a reliable marker of a person’s intelligence. Many have now started advocating for overall personality tests that would help people understand their strengths and weaknesses so that they can have a better understanding about themselves, which will enable them to walk a more suitable path in life.
And in order to develop an overall personality, one has to first understand that there exists a realm of education outside the walls of a classroom, which is as equal as the one inside the classroom. They not only complement each other but excelling in both would lead to a more complete, well You! So, what are you waiting for?
Start educating yourself by going outside, meeting new people, traveling, and exploring in order to realize the full extent of your potential. And remember, there is no such thing as the failure but rather everything is an experience you learn from.
Now, I have talked a lot about personal development and some of the dimensions of it in this article but I can hear your asking, how do I know what traits I have? Am I an assertive person? Am I an open-minded person? Or Am I pragmatic or a romantic? Well not to worry, as Brainpundits has all the answers to your curiosity about yourself as it offers you various personality tests that you can take to fully explore yourself.
So Happy exploring yourself and be awesome!
As a manager, when you hire someone new in the organization, do you think to yourself how long will they last? This is a very common problem which corporates and startups both face alike. Hiring is perhaps still an art rather than science.
It all boils down to the fact that dealing with people is unlike dealing with machines as people are unpredictable, they lie and they are constantly under stress and pressure.
What’s even more astounding is the fact that humans are very difficult to benchmark. This is very true if you accept the statement that marks don’t reflect intelligence.
Traditional ways of measuring human potential i.e. Aptitude is slowly losing its authenticity & charm. It doesn’t account for the practice effect which simply means that practicing for an aptitude test causes an improvement in score. This means that it is not a great indicator of cognitive thinking.
There are other indicators for measuring human potential that can work better for the traditional office settings. I am talking of course of personality and interest testing. It measures those traits of a human which are essential for him/her to do a particular job or task.
All these tests; personality, aptitude, interest, and intelligence are collectively called psychometric testing (psycho: meaning mind, and metric: meaning measure)
Some of the biggest firms in the world use psychometric testing as a base for recruitment and training of their workforce.
More than 18% of the organizations currently use personality tests in the hiring process, according to a survey conducted by the Society for Human Resource Management.
This number is growing at a rate of 10-15% a year according to many industrial and organizational psychologists, as well as the Association for Test Publishers. Talking about the top Fortune 500 companies, all of them use one form or another of psychometric testing.
If you are an entrepreneur who wants to hire the right people for the right job then you need to be extremely sure that your next hire doesn’t hamper the current business processes.
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Conducting psychometric testing for your workforce should absolutely be mandatory, especially if you are a small or a mid-size firm. These tools will help you to gauge a person in a completely different realm; his/her innate nature.
It’s true that there are limitations to these kinds of testing such as social desirability, random answering, faking good and it cannot measure all the properties of the human behavior. However, they do reveal a valid chunk of information which can help you hire your next best employee.
When used correctly, cognitive and personality tests can increase the chances that new employees will succeed. Since the cost of a bad hire is widely estimated to be at least one year’s pay, there are huge incentives for organizations to get hiring right. Unfortunately, too many organizations use the wrong psychometric assessments in the wrong way.
Here’s what organizations need to know in order to minimize potential risks and maximize the predictive accuracy of these tests.
Let’s take an example to see how the right application of psychometrics can help hire the right employee.
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Now would you be interested to know whether he scores well in logic and verbal, or would you be interested to know whether he is a people person who possesses certain personality characteristics such as Diplomatic nature, Achievement Orientation, Persistence and Stress tolerance?
The answer is a mixture of both. Since salespeople should be good in numbers as well as verbal intellect. In addition to this their personality should be of a particular type.
Generally, diplomatic people, they should be persistent with clients and should set high standards for themselves and should have stress tolerant ability in order to cope with their jobs. Similarly, we can create an ideal psychometric sheet for all types of functions and job slots.
Psychometric assessments are the most cost-effective tool for predicting future job performance. They provide an objective and standardized view of a range of candidate competencies, such as abilities and personality.
Psychometric assessments supply an organization with valuable information about an individual. These assessments produce results which can be compared against established industry benchmarks, providing a clear positioning of candidates’ potential to perform against large, relevant occupational groups.
Research confirms that the most accurate, holistic view of a candidate is achieved when psychometric assessments are used together with other methods, such as interviews and work sample tests.
In Conclusion, Psychometrics is not just limited to aptitude tests, it also includes personality tests, interest tests, and creativity tests.
Corporates should use psychometric tests in combination with interviews and work sample tests to hire new employees in order to ensure that no bad hire happens. This is especially true for the small and medium enterprises.
What After 10th? The SOCH Approach
We all go through the moment when we start our 10th class and feel a certain unease. This unease is about the future that is getting nearer as you approach your 10th exams. I remember when I cleared my 10th, I was confused about which stream to choose out of the options available.
Although some of my friends seemed clear about what they wanted to choose as a stream there were some like me who were confused about what is the right stream.
If you feel the same way now, then worry not as through this article, I will try to ease your confusion and help you understand not only the streams available but also what might be the right stream for you with the use of the SOCH approach. But what first what is the SOCH approach all about?
SOCH – Stats-Objects-Concepts-Humans
SOCH is the acronym that we at Brainpundits have come up with about four dominant inclinations that we, as people, may have.
- S-tats (good with data, numbers, facts and figures),
- O-bjects (good with machines, tools, and new technology),
- C-oncepts (good in dealing with abstract concepts and being original)
- H-umans (the more people-oriented person who is comfortable with interacting with people and maintaining interpersonal relations).
While I have for now given a very basic understanding of each dimension so that you can easily understand it but it’s a far more complicated and denser concept with various indicators of each dimension, to bring out the best result. All of us have these dimensions, but out of these foursomes are more dominant than others. Using the SOCH-Approach, I will show you how each stream can be understood under this ingenious approach.
Humanities and Social Sciences
Social Sciences or arts and humanities is a major category of discipline that studies societies and human relationships within these societies.
It includes subjects like Economics, Political Science, Sociology, History, Geography, Psychology, and Linguistics.
It’s a very vast field of knowledge and at their core, if one believes in knowing and understanding other people’s problems in the society than all other things, then this might be a stream for you. If you feel your empathetic to people’s feelings and also comfortable in maintaining interpersonal relationships well then you are a good counselor in waiting, and through this stream, you could become one.
This falls within the Human dimension of the overall SOCH approach. Apart from this, this stream would be ideal if you have a strong combination with Humans with Concepts, a dimension which tells you about your ability to think of original and novel ideas.
This stream requires people who are comfortable dealing with abstract notions and coming up with intuitive reasoning to solve problems.
The types of jobs that this stream has ranged from a career in academics, i.e. in research and teaching to a psychologist or a counselor to research analyst at various research centers in India. The nature of jobs in this stream is dependent upon your specialization in a particular subject.
For example, a specialization in history would open your doors to being a historian or an archaeologist, on the other hand, a specialization in geography would mean a job as a geologist, a remote sensing expert etc.
Another stream that is an option after your 10th is commerce. The core subjects in commerce are Economics, Mathematics, Business Studies, Accountancy, and an additional subject. The stream revolves around the study of business, trade, and finance.
It broadly covers the study of exchange of economic activities within a country. Under the SOCH approach, it would be a good choice for you if you have a strong bent towards the Stats dimension. As this field requires you to be excellent in dealing with data, numbers, stats, figures etc.
If you feel you have a knack paying close attention to details and keeping things organized then this stream may be well suited for you.
This stream is ideal for those who want to join jobs in the field of accounts, finance, and the overall banking sector.
The popular and most lucrative job options in this field are Chartered Accountant (CA), Company Secretary (CS), Actuarial Science, Management etc. Most of these jobs are highly lucrative with very good packages.
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Science – Non-Medical
The overall stream of science is almost all are familiar with. As we grow older we keep hearing about two staple jobs of India – Engineer and Doctor, both of these jobs are the ones that are an option from this stream.
This section is about non-medical which has core subjects of Physics, Chemistry, and Maths (along with English and an additional subject). In this stream, one gets to study about the natural and physical world in detail. In the case of people who opt for PCM, the main jobs revolve around the mass engineering industry.
You should also know that there are various types of engineering – from civil, mechanical, electronics, computers etc. Under the SOCH approach people who have a bent towards Objects and Stats, i.e. who love working with tools, and new technologies, would be better suited for this option within the science stream.
If you love working with machines and seem to have a scientific bent of mind, i.e. following a scientific approach in solving issues then it’s the right stream for you.
The types of jobs within this field largely fall under the engineering industry. If you love computers and working on them then you could go into software engineering.
Or if you love cars then mechanical or automobile engineering is another option. But apart from engineering other options that are available in this stream are of Architecture, Aviation, and of course further research in Theoretical Physics.
Science – Medical
The other option within the science stream is of Biology (the rest of the subjects are same as in non-medical). This stream revolves around, again the study of the natural and physical world but the later job opportunities mainly revolve around the dominant field of Health Services.
Under the SOCH approach, this stream would best suit people who have a strong bent towards Stats and Humans. As people who love working with facts and figures but also care and understand the needs of others.
It is a complex combination of data and empathy. The reason being people who want to solve big medical problems of human life, with the help of science, would need to have an inclination towards paying close attention to minute details and working in a systematic manner.
Furthermore, since human life is at the center of this stream you should also be able to place importance on other people’s feelings and problems ahead of your own.
While the most famous job profile within this stream is, of course, the profession of the Doctor (MBBS, MD). But there are also various other jobs within this stream that you can do for example a Botanist (also called phytologist) who studies plants in detail or a zoologist. There are other job options available in Pharmacology, Biotechnology, Nutritionist, and others.
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By the end, I know you must be thinking that you could have read this on any other site about what options are available. What is different here? Well, the SOCH approach, which is a recurring theme, is the different thing here.
Through the paradigm of SOCH you can know about yourself better and after giving a simple Stream Selection test at our Brainpundits page, you will find out about your personality and also know which stream would be ideally suited for you.
We have a well-designed test that you can take in order to know which side tilt towards. So, what are you waiting for? Go to Brainpundits and start exploring yourself! Till then, cheers and be awesome!
To Lie is to Human: The Science of Lying
Do you remember the first time you told a lie? If I try to remember my first lie, it might have been in my early childhood. I remember lying to my mother that I had gone to study but in reality, I was playing with other kids outside. The odds are, you might have done the same in your childhood but in different circumstances. There’s nothing to be ashamed of or to feel guilty about it as lying is one of the most common attributes we humans have. The history of humankind is full of people who not only lie but use them to fool others and gain an advantage or to get out of a tricky situation. From people like Frank Abagnale (remember the film Catch Me if You Can?) who conned hundreds of people with his lies and charm to politicians like Richard Nixon or even Bill Clinton, who lied under oath! (an impeachable offence under the U.S law).
why do people lie?
Some of the first research to understand the phenomena of lying was done by Bella DePaulo (1996) and her colleagues. They found out from the study that out of all the 147 participants, almost all of them lied on an average two or three times a day. Some of these lies were small lies in order not to hurt someone’s feelings or some of were excuses in order to get out of an errand. But some also admitted to telling some serious lies like hiding an affair. Researchers have argued that the behaviour of lying must have originated shortly after the emergence of language. The realisation of the power to manipulate others without using physical force may have proven be to be one of the causal factors behind lying. Sissela Bok, in her book (1978), has argued that the act of lying is the easiest way of gaining power when compared with other ways. She says “It’s much easier to lie in order to get somebody’s money or wealth than to hit them over the head or rob a bank”.
I go back again to the example of lying in our childhood, when we lie for the first time. Bruno Vershcuere (2011) has argued that lying is an essential part of our developmental process like walking or talking. He argues that children learn to lie between the ages of two to five. Moreover, they lie the most when they are faced with questions of independence. To study the development of lying in children, Kang Lee (2013), along with his colleague in a study found out that lying is part of the overall development process of a child. According to this study the percentage among children for lying increases with age. Among two-year-olds, only 30% are caught lying but as the age increases the numbers also increases as among 3-year olds, the number shoots up to 50% and in the case of eight-year-olds, it is at a staggering 80%!
Researchers have also argued that kids also get better with lying as they age. In the case of the above experiment, two and three-year-olds after some probing told they peeked, albeit not knowing what was their transgression. But eight-year-olds, learned to hide their actions by giving a story or saying the complete opposite with conviction. Researchers have argued that the rise in lying skills depends on the child’s development of the ability to imagine himself/herself in other’s place.
But the question arises that are people, who lie more often, unique or different from those who don’t? Researchers Yaling Yang (2005) and her colleagues undertook just a study to investigate the mapping of the brain among different individuals. In the study, the researchers compared the brain scans of three different groups. One group had 12 people, having a history of repeated lying, the second with 16 people who were deemed to be having an anti-social personality disorder, and the third group with 21 people who were neither. The study found that the people who lied often had a greater connectivity within their brains, signifying that they are likely to come up with better stories, plans etc. Although, this could have also have happened because of years of habitual lying.
In another study, Nobuhito Abe and Joshua Greene (2014) performed scans on their subjects using fMRI (Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging) and found that people who lied and were dishonest showed greater activation in a certain part of the brain which plays a key role in processing the idea of rewards. Green, while explaining the findings, argued that the more excited your reward system gets at the possibility of getting money – even in a perfectly honest context – the more likely you are to cheat or act in a dishonest way. Simply put, greed may lead you to lie!
The Paradox of Being Human
What is puzzling though if, which is being argued by research, the act of lying leads to better connectivity in the brains or it is a sign of early development of children or the thought of lying or being dishonest excites our reward system in our brains, then why don’t we do it more often. This is the same question that Dan Ariely finds interesting as he wants to understand why is it that people don’t lie more. In an experiment conducted on dishonesty, Ariely, in his ‘the dishonesty project’, gave volunteers simple math problems to solve and if they get answers right they would get paid for them. The volunteers were told to shred the sheet after the test and told to report how much they got correct. Most of the volunteers lied when they reported but what Ariely found interesting was that the people didn’t increase their levels of lying, even when the amount of money was increased. People stopped from lying all the way – even though they were given clear opportunities and incentives to do so. Ariely argues that the reason could be that people want to see in themselves as honest beings, which could be because the value that honesty has in the society. So, people might have internalised honesty as an integral value as a human being.
But researchers like Timothy Levine (2010) have argued that overall it is better to be truthful and honest as these two determine the implicit trust that we have in social relationships and public communication. If we lose faith in these then overall faith in the people would be destroyed and people would stop having social relationships. Overall, we get far more benefits from believing and occasional moments of getting fooled by lies or deceptions are just hiccups. Robert Feldman, however, argues that this belief actually helps the liars. He calls it the liar’s advantage. As people usually are not expecting lies as they are not searching for them in every form of conversation and this is often used by the liars.
In Conclusion – Main Reasons for Lying
After going through a brief survey of research, we can identify certain key reasons for lying. The first type of lie is what we call the ‘white lie’. It is the type of lie we say when we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings or we want to protect someone from emotional harm. For e.g. if someone in your family has cancer but you don’t tell, say your grandmother to save her from the emotional toll that such a news may take. The second type of lie comes out of fear, i.e. when we are afraid of the consequence of telling a truth. Lying in our childhood to escape from a parent’s beating is easiest example to think about. The third type of lie is linked with greed, as research has shown, that we use lies at times to maximise our profits in our daily lives. Last but not the least, the fourth type of lie is similar to the previous one. It is when we exaggerate about things to a certain extent to the other person to project or inflate an image of a product, so that people end up accepting it without questioning. Salespersons are the prime example people who uses these lies. Similarly, politicians also use these lies in order to project a larger than life image. So, think and ask yourself two questions: How many times you lie in a day? Second, of the four types, which type of lie you use the most. And if you think you don’t like that much, the answer to the above two questions may surprise you. Till then, Happy Lying Everyone!
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Did you apply “marks” as a criterion for choosing your career and feel that you have made a big mistake and are greatly depressed! Now:
You are generally not satisfied with what you are studying, you try your level best but the teacher’s words make no sense.
- The assignments do not interest you and force yourself to write but you are bored stiff.
- Very little things upset you. Your moods change erratically and you are no longer fun to be around with. You have nothing much to contribute to conversations about your course, not even to gossip.
You may have realized that selected subjects are not your territory and if nothing is making sense, you must reconsider your choice of course. This post tries to help those ‘unsure ‘ students while there is still time! To help them evaluate most appropriate stream & subject and means to do so under CBSE Board (Central Board of Secondary Education)
Are you unhappy with the subjects that you selected last month for your new 9th or 11th classes? Don’t worry, you are not alone to have such self-doubt. Hundreds of students have the same emotions as the first month of their new classes.
Lately, your life had become a roller coaster ride from the anticipation of date sheet to the hard work and stress of Board Exam. It was a wretch that Continuous and Comprehensive Evaluation (CCE) grading system for class 10 students was scrapped by CBSE and your batch had to face Board exam after a gap of 7 years. Then there was the expectation of good result!
After the result, you were thrown headlong into the selection of school and stream! Will it be Science, Commerce or Humanities? At this junctures, there are so many things to consider and a number of decisions to be taken. The entire extended family and friends jumped in with their own opinions and experiences as if it was their own life that was at stake.
In the jamboree, everybody forgot to assess your interest in the subjects. Probably this the reflection of the way careers were decided in the recent past or even today. The students who are high scorers are sure to take Science (PCM or PCB), while the mediocre students are likely to gravitate towards Commerce and the leftover seats went to the remaining students who were expected to settle for Social Sciences, Diploma or ITI. The bias is running still deeper, that the Vocational stream is perceived to be suitable for so-called lower strata.
How wrong this viewpoint is! This attitude is ruining the lives of millions of students like you, who are like square pegs in round holes. This fixation of marks as principal criteria for choosing a career in 9th or 11th is now antiqued and is required to be trashed. Nobody even cares if the course was right for you, as long as it was high on the job market.
After taking that unwanted subject, when students start studying that topics in class 9th and 11th it is very difficult for them to handle those subjects. Sometimes anger, frustration, depression may surround them and those unlucky students find themselves in very difficult emotions. You also begin to visualize yourself in the same situation, which further aggravates your raw emotions. In olden days you probably would have silently borne the mismatch and continued to suffer throughout your life due to a career path mismatch based on the wrong selection of subjects.
Today things are different and many options are available to discover where your vocation or passion in life actually lies. This will cost you only one and a half hour. This one and a half hour will the most important hour of your life. One & half hour of self-discovery will assess you on your IQ, passion, aptitude, personality and much more.
The assessment of most appropriate stream/ subject through online tests can be accessed at www.brainpundits .com
After the assessment of most appropriate stream/ subject through the online test you can now be reassured if your selected stream is suitable for you or some remedial or corrective steps are required. Do confide in your father, mother or some mentor. Then the official process to change subjects can be discussed with the school and initiated. The procedure is applicable for the students of CBSE board which is more about changing the subject (example – from Maths to Biology) and less about changing streams (example – from Social Sciences to Science).
CBSE PROCEDURE FOR MIDSTREAM CHANGE IN SUBJECT:
- A class 11th student may be allowed a change in subject midsession by the School but decision should be made before the 31st of October 2018.
- Change in the subject cannot be made after passing class 11t.
- A subject can be taken in class 10th or 12th only if studied and passed in class 9th and 11th respectively.
- Chairman under special circumstances can allow but before 30th September of the year.
In easy words, the change is easily possible before registration. Now, what is Registration?
CBSE has a system of registration of students admitted in the schools for 12th boards. The registration is usually done in class 11th. Since last Academic Session, it is mandatory to enroll all students on the Board’s portal through online registration. It is the responsibility of the school to register students on the portal which can be an individual entry for less number of students and uploading on board’s excel sheet for bulk registrations.
Your minimum age must conform to age as prescribed by the state/ UT. In sync with the latest identification trend in India, your Adhaar is a must. Your parent’s self-declared income is acceptable and no other paper is likely to be required. In case you are residents of Indian states where Aadhar enrolment is not compulsory you can provide Bank details in lieu of Aadhar. In case you are foreign nationals Passport Number or Social Security Number/ID Number issued by that Foreign Country can suffice.
You must finalize the correct combination of subjects. The subjects are specified in the Board’s Scheme of Studies with a clear list of valid/ invalid combination of subjects. For Example: In class 11th subject Informatics Practice and Computer Science cannot be taken together. You must confirm from your school if they have been permitted to teach same by the Affiliation Unit of the Board. School also should check the combination of subjects before uploading student’s subjects. This is important because in case of any mistake, your candidature can be in danger of cancellation.
The Board has a prescribed Scheme of Studies for Secondary/Sr. Secondary classes, which is available in the curriculum on the website www.cbseacademic.nic.in
Registration process begins tentatively in mid-September and ends by October last.
Coming back to the topic of change or finalisation of subjects……
It is very easy to change from say Hindi to English before registration. Just write an application to your school Principle requesting him/her to change the subject. Before registration everything is under school control, thus your application can be easily accepted. For current batch, the likely dates of registrations can be from late September to about 31st of October. So you still have time to clear your mind, to remove your doubts by seeking online career/ stream selection test and be confident. Care should be taken to be true to yourself for closest possible results.
Let us understand this process through an example….
Suppose you have opted for Commerce stream in the class 11th with a combination of say Accounts, Business Studies, Mathematics, Economics and English subjects. But you face a daily struggle with Mathematics on a constant basis. You are trying your level best to improve your understanding of the subject but are unable to cope with it. The low score worries you and are afraid of how it will impact your overall result and your future admission prospects in professional courses. So, you are justified to change your subject from Mathematics to Hindi in view of overall benefit.
Changing Mathematics to Hindi before registration (i.e, in class 11th) before October last….
However, subject change is not a bed of roses after registration. Your teachers or Principle will decline with a big NO for change in the subject at this late stage. Please don’t get put off by your teachers or principle’s negative and static reply. It may still be possible to change your subject by explaining your plight to the teachers. In this situation, you must convince your school principle to write a letter to your CBSE of your Region. The letter by your principle should be accompanied by a request from your side to change the subject.
For example- you can write…
The Principle (of your school),
Subject- change in subject.
And your principle will recommend the change in subject, in a separate letter addressing the head of your CBSE Region, accompanied by your request addressed as above.
After posting the letter, duly forwarded by your school, just wait for the confirmation from CBSE Regional office. Meanwhile, continue with your wretched subject (Mathematics as in the above case). When the letter will arrive it will grant permission to the change in subject from Mathematics to Hindi. Ensure the effect of the change from Mathematics to Hindi on your Board exam admit card
You deserve the best in life. Please spare one and half hour for this self-assessment. This small capsule of time will become the most important time that you may have devoted for your own welfare. But remember while filling your answers be true to yourself.
What is positive parenting? What comes to your mind when you hear the word good parenting? Majority of the children are born ‘gifted’ and merely require the correct career path to become ‘geniuses’. Alan Arkin, an American – Actor compares career to a large ocean and choosing career option to deciding which wave to take and which not to take.
Some waves are big and some small, going is sometimes rough and sometimes calm and life certainly is not a steady march to glory….Then the big question is how to discover and exercise the right choice?
If seniors try to compel their children to select a stream according to their own choices, for which their children do not have the least interest, the result may sometimes be disastrous. Most parents wish their children to make them proud and be rich and famous.
They perceive their offsprings to be an extension of themselves, considering them as an entity rather than individual in their own rights, with needs and desires of their own.
Parents have a vital role in building a right career for their children. Parents are justified to wish their teenagers all the success and the best ‘survival instinct of the fittest’ in the modern world is to be equipped with the right career path.
But, are the parents equipped to play the right role as career guides for their children? A simple reality is that the world is a very different place today, to the one which was faced by parents when making study, training or career-related decisions regarding themselves. Positive parenting is about understanding the need of a child.
New jobs are being created all the time, and it seems many naukaris open to young people today didn’t even exist a decade ago. Over the last twenty years or so, the school, college and career search process has become extremely complicated, to be left to individual families to explore!
In this complex world, who then is helping your child to discover the right subjects or opt for correct career selection? Fortunately, there are many avenues today like advertisements, internet, u-tubes, websites and people involved in the process including teachers, career counselors, and tutors etc. The challenge is that they may have their own biases and perspective, against which we need to protect the child.
Then there is peer pressure and herd mentality to ward off. In this entire gamut, what is definitely missing is a scientific method for effective stream and career selection. So what should a father or mother do? Whom to consult? What method to adopt? so that there is less likelihood of making a mistake and there are more chances of success.
What is existential crisis?
I am writing this as my first blog post and straight of the bat, I want to address a big issue. This issue is a feeling. It is a feeling that people experience in their lives at one point or another and you too must have felt it at least once.
Don’t you sometimes get the feeling that you are wasting your life, that you lack a sense of purpose or direction? A feeling of not living your life to the fullest. It almost feels like you have lost the battle of life and you feel defeated, confused and sense of panic is prevalent on your outer surface.
This panic is the byproduct of frustrations you have been dealing in your life and it feels like all of a sudden it all comes crashing down on you, all at once. The emotional burden that you feel at that point is called an “Existential Crisis”.
Experiential crisis is common to everyone, just that different people handle it differently. Everyone in life develops a coping mechanism for this feeling.
It might be a quiet hobby for some, a wild night of partying for others but this feeling seldom goes away if you try to sweep it under the rug. The important thing to do is to admit that there is a definitive problem in your life and you need to take actions to correct this issue.
The pain that comes from inaction is huge but it’s nothing compared to the regret that you will feel after some time.
Take me for example. I have had a few crises in my life. When I was in XIIth I was preparing hard for IIT. Didn’t get through. That almost crushed me, my hope to do something in life was gone.
Life seems quite hellish, even though I managed to get into a good college. It was just my mindset at that time. Nothing seemed right. I felt like a failure and thought that my only purpose in life was to get into IIT and prove I wasn’t a failure.
So, I prepared for it again. Didn’t get through. Dropped a year in college because of that. This caused a great deal of stress to me, I felt unhappy and got into depression. Eventually, I came out of it. And I realized that the key is a 3-step process.
Which means, take an action in life. Then review its effects. And then based on the effects we change accordingly.
This Loops over again as we take another action, review its effects and then change accordingly. That is the crux to living a life which you want and not a life which you currently have.
A big problem with this strategy, however, is that people find it hard to change and it takes big life events to affect us in a big way and make us change.
This is a characteristic intrinsic in all humans, they are unwilling to change. It takes a lot of pain to change oneself. And this is why we suffer from an “existential crisis” sometimes in life.
Now comes the golden question. How to handle this? The journey of a million miles always starts with the first step. When dealing with a personal crisis start by making a list of things which are bothering you at that particular moment, quantify your fears and anxiety.
Knowing your problems is the starting step to fixing them. Side by side you should also make a list of things you are thankful for. If you have a choice between keeping things bottled up or talking to someone who cares about you, you should always choose the latter no matter how difficult you think the decision is.
When you are dealing with your own personal crisis always remember one golden rule. It’s always better to suffer the pain of discipline than to suffer the pain of regret. So, do try to change In life. Do you think you know existential crisis better? Do share you thoughts with us!
We strive for success in our life, no matter where we are. From education to a fancy-dress competition, maybe a debate, or our career we settle in. No matter what age, or position we all strive for success. Who runs a race for coming second? (Well, maybe if it is fixed) No one otherwise ever plans on coming second. Though it is nearly impossible to get the First position every time. But we work hard for it, we fail again and work harder. Like Ants!! At least that’s what we have always been told to do, ever since we are young. Success and failures and again the success, a vicious circle.
Success and the Successor: Mentor And Role Model
Oscar Wilde once quoted, “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise”. On this journey to our self-improved life, we encounter various struggles. These struggles shape us in the perfect mold. But as it rightly said, you cannot do all by yourself.
There comes an importance of having a role model or a mentor in your life. I am sure you must have heard it a lot of times from your parents, elder siblings, teachers and who not. To succeed, have a role model. I don’t deny it either.
A mentor and role model, not only guide you but helps you to discover the need to succeed in your life. Throughout our life, we need someone to support us, or maybe just to share our feelings. As a child, we have our parents, then as we move ahead we enlarge that personal space and include our best friends, partner, family etc.
Similarly, as we move ahead in our career, we need someone to be there. This mentor or role model helps us identify where we are, where we are supposed to go and what be our first aid kit in times of failure.
Illustration by Nagma Khan
We tend to admire our role model and imitate their success. We would like to imitate their success. They may be great achievers in their professional life or could be people depicting an exemplary character in personal life.
It is seen that role models have a fantasy like an achievement. It might be impossible for us to replicate their success in our life. Usually, these are people whom you observe and then consider what you could do differently idolizing them, that would enhance your life.
Most often, the role models we have in our life are famous celebrities, sportspersons, famous political leaders, successful entrepreneurs or businessman and many more according to your likes and preferences whom you idolize.
Illustration by Nagma Khan
On the other hand, a mentor is a trusted adviser. They exist in the reality than just in a fantasy world. They help you in guiding towards the future goals of your life and mold your personal and professional lives. They provide you with a positive direction in your life.
This cannot be done in a day, they have to be around for a long time, as building character is a long-term task.
It is thus important to choose a mentor who has more experience than you and who is around you more often. An elder family member like a parent or sibling is, therefore, the best choice at a young age.
Choosing a neighbor is also a good option. But, as you grow up and choose a profession, only someone from that field can help you best, therefore a senior colleague or a supervisor willing to mentor you is the most desirable course.
We get inspiration from Role Models but Mentors inspire us and truly impact our lives. They come and go as we move ahead in our lives with our varied personal and professional goals.
Considering my own example, I have had many role models and mentors. During my early childhood, I admired Kalpana Chawla and looked up to her achievements, then at another stage of my life, it was Yuvraj Singh.
Currently, I consider Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam as my role model. Whereas, if I talk about my mentors, I consider my teacher, my parents and siblings to be in that role. They have been there throughout my life.
They have guided, inspired, and motivated me to lead me to where I am today. Now, the question arises that how should one choose a mentor in life? I am pretty sure that you will agree that none would apply to it if posted this job on naukri.com, or in any newspaper. But, trust me it is not that difficult to choose a mentor in your life.
There are a few simple things you ought to remember while choosing a mentor. Before going through these steps, remember a cautionary statement. It is certainly not necessary that they have to be from your field of study or interest only.
- Do you need them to be present around you often? If yes, look around. Find out who inspires you. Who do you think is most likely your idol?
- After choosing, remember as much as they are willing to share their experiences, knowledge, skills, and expertise. You should also be equally willing to gain from it as much as you can. Remember you are not being fed here. You are just being taught how to cook.
- The last but not the least, make it a point that having a mentor does not give you a guarantee for a successful career/life. They just give you enough strength to carry on even if you fail.
Well, I hope this will help you to find the best role model/mentor as you may need and desire in your life. Good Luck!! Hopefully in times to come as you lead ahead in your life you make a great role model and mentor for those around you.
Success and the Successor: Mentor and Role Model. Do you think this matter? Leave your thoughts in the comment section below.
Weasleys’ Wizard Wheezes sells 30 minutes Patented Daydream Charms to Hogwarts students so that they don’t have to suffer unprofitable boredom listening to school lectures. The daydream takes them to another level of consciousness completely aloof from the surroundings. But the side-effects will include vacant expressions and minor drooling. This is a fantasy in the surreal world of Harry Potter.
In our dimension of reality, the Patented Daydream Charms may not be an actuality but, the daydreams are. Humans don’t need any charms or amulets to experience it. This natural phenomenon is called Mind Wandering.
Illustration by Nagma Khan
Haven’t you ever found yourself lost while attending a lecture in a classroom? How embarrassing it has been when the professor suddenly asks something and you were unable to respond, lost in your own thoughts. It would even get more embarrassing if you were unable to recall the time since your mind got distracted.
Mind wandering is experienced very frequently. It occurs even in those situations where it is risky to lose one’s attention, such as driving. When the mind wanders, an individual’s attention drifts from the current thought (usually an external task) to inner thoughts and images that are unrelated to the present situation. The thoughts that occur during mind wandering are often known to reflect either the past experiences or future contemplation.
During mind wandering one’s thoughts usually, border between conscious and pre-conscious levels.
- Conscious Level consists of those thoughts, feelings, and perceptions with which one is fully aware at the present moment.
- Pre-conscious Level contains those thoughts and feelings about which one is not aware of at the present moment but can easily retrieve them with some effort.
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Mind Wandering happens to people of all ages. Research says that people tend to spend somewhere between 25%-50% of their waking hours engaged in thoughts that are unrelated to here and now. (Killingsworth & Gilbert 2010).
Although mind wandering may distract one’s mind, or make them feel lost, it is not always bad to let it happen. The content of the thoughts determines whether it has a positive or negative effect in daily life.
For instance, thinking about how your meeting may go or planning a holiday may help you plan for future events more smoothly. But at the same time thinking about past failures or how things could have gone the other way are less likely to be helpful, and may, in fact, exacerbate states of worry or unhappiness leading to stress. Thus mind wandering has both costs and benefits.
Mind Wandering may benefit by:
- Allowing one to focus on the future and reflect on the past. Thus, consciously allowing one to connect past and future self together.
- Providing creative inspiration and help produce novel solutions to various problems.
- Consolidating self-memories (Smallwood et al., 2011) and linking to a style of long-term decision making characterized by patients rather than impulsiveness (Smallwood et, 2013).
- Helping one to de-stress themselves. When stuck in the stressful situation, one should let their mind wander. Living in the fantasy world (of course with certain limits) may help to overcome the stress.
Although mind-wandering helps in enhancing creativity, planning, and organization, it may be unpleasant for individuals who experience it and is disruptive to the task at hand.
Some of the Detriments of mind-wandering may include:
- It may interfere with and disrupt the on-going task performance and may reduce external vigilance (McVay and Kane, 2009).
- It can also be a marker for certain psychiatric problems such as Dysphoria (a state of unease or dissatisfaction). Smallwood, O’Connor, and Heim (2005) suggested that when the ruminative style of thinking is combined with negative mood, it may strengthen the association between mind-wandering and #dysphoria.
- Moreover, it has been suggested that mind wandering often accompanies an unhappy mood as thinking about the past enhances adverse emotions especially if the past has negative connotations. Thus mind wandering may have maladaptive consequences for health and may impact psychological well-being. There has been substantial evidence suggesting that people who experience more mind-wandering suffer more from increased depressive symptomology (Smallwood et al 2007) and report less life satisfaction (Mar et al., 2012).
In order to reduce the detrimental effects of mind wandering the following techniques can be taken into account:
- ‘Meditation’ is one of the obvious technique. It helps one to enhance concentration abilities which allows one to focus more on the current task or activity.
- ‘Mindfulness in action techniques’ is another way to bring mindfulness into the activities of everyday life. These techniques are especially good for those who have very low impulse control and distress tolerance. For instance, according to Linehan (2003), one technique could be focusing awareness on an aspect of physical habit which was previously outside one’s conscious awareness. Example:
- Noticing how tight you hold the steering wheel while driving.
- Being aware of what happens to your breathing or voice tone in an argument.
- Killingsworth, M. A. & Gilbert, D. T. (2010). A wandering mind is an unhappy mind. Science Volume 330, 932–932.
- Mooneyham, B.W., & Schooler, J.W. (2013).The costs and benefits of mind-wandering: A review, Canadian Journal of Experimental Psychology, Volume 67, 1, 11–18.
- Smallwood, J., O’Connor, R. C., & Heim, D. (2005). Rumination, dysphoria and subjective experience, Imagination, cognition and personality, Volume 24(4), 355-367.
- Smallwood, J., & Schooler, J.W. (2015). The Science of Mind Wandering: Empirically Navigating the Stream of Consciousness, Annual Review, Volume 66, 487-518.
- Smallwood, J., and Hanna, J.A., (2013). Not all minds that wander are lost: the importance of a balanced perspective on the mind-wandering state, Frontiers in Psychology, Volume 4.
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