What is existential crisis?
I am writing this as my first blog post and straight of the bat, I want to address a big issue. This issue is a feeling. It is a feeling that people experience in their lives at one point or another and you too must have felt it at least once.
Don’t you sometimes get the feeling that you are wasting your life, that you lack a sense of purpose or direction? A feeling of not living your life to the fullest. It almost feels like you have lost the battle of life and you feel defeated, confused and sense of panic is prevalent on your outer surface.
This panic is the byproduct of frustrations you have been dealing in your life and it feels like all of a sudden it all comes crashing down on you, all at once. The emotional burden that you feel at that point is called an “Existential Crisis”.
Experiential crisis is common to everyone, just that different people handle it differently. Everyone in life develops a coping mechanism for this feeling.
It might be a quiet hobby for some, a wild night of partying for others but this feeling seldom goes away if you try to sweep it under the rug. The important thing to do is to admit that there is a definitive problem in your life and you need to take actions to correct this issue.
The pain that comes from inaction is huge but it’s nothing compared to the regret that you will feel after some time.
Take me for example. I have had a few crises in my life. When I was in XIIth I was preparing hard for IIT. Didn’t get through. That almost crushed me, my hope to do something in life was gone.
Life seems quite hellish, even though I managed to get into a good college. It was just my mindset at that time. Nothing seemed right. I felt like a failure and thought that my only purpose in life was to get into IIT and prove I wasn’t a failure.
So, I prepared for it again. Didn’t get through. Dropped a year in college because of that. This caused a great deal of stress to me, I felt unhappy and got into depression. Eventually, I came out of it. And I realized that the key is a 3-step process.
Which means, take an action in life. Then review its effects. And then based on the effects we change accordingly.
This Loops over again as we take another action, review its effects and then change accordingly. That is the crux to living a life which you want and not a life which you currently have.
A big problem with this strategy, however, is that people find it hard to change and it takes big life events to affect us in a big way and make us change.
This is a characteristic intrinsic in all humans, they are unwilling to change. It takes a lot of pain to change oneself. And this is why we suffer from an “existential crisis” sometimes in life.
Now comes the golden question. How to handle this? The journey of a million miles always starts with the first step. When dealing with a personal crisis start by making a list of things which are bothering you at that particular moment, quantify your fears and anxiety.
Knowing your problems is the starting step to fixing them. Side by side you should also make a list of things you are thankful for. If you have a choice between keeping things bottled up or talking to someone who cares about you, you should always choose the latter no matter how difficult you think the decision is.
When you are dealing with your own personal crisis always remember one golden rule. It’s always better to suffer the pain of discipline than to suffer the pain of regret. So, do try to change In life. Do you think you know existential crisis better? Do share you thoughts with us!