Bullying is a serious issue and needs to be dealt with accordingly. I, myself, have had a bad experience of dealing with it. Bullying is universal, meaning it happens everywhere across nationalities in schools, colleges and families. The article suggests and advises on how to deal with bullying at school.
UNESCO reports in 2019, that one in every three children experiences some form of bullying. SEEDS (Sustainable Environment and Ecological Development) with HoneyWell India conducted a survey which found out 19 percent of the families in Delhi fears that their child might be subjected to bullying.
What is bullying?
Merriam Webster defines bullying as an abuse or mistreatment of someone who is perceived as vulnerable or weak by someone who identifies as stronger.
Since, bullying can occur both silently and overtly, it becomes difficult to describe. Cyber bullying is a malicious form of bullying which occurs mostly on social media. One report cities India as top ranking country when it comes to cyber bullying.
Bullying can be verbal, physical or even psychological. It can occur in combination or in form only.
There is another type of bullying which occurs, it uses silence as a tool to bully someone. This type of behavior is categorized as passive aggressive behavior.
Bullying in any form is dangerous. It affects and changes one’s personality and can have serious psychological and physiological impact.
At school it can occur at any age and it also can happen during college time. During college time, it can occur in form of ragging. Supreme court of India had passed a ruling regarding ragging which sought to eliminate it and was taken into cognizance by universities and various authorities including police. The Media had also helped in the matter by making public aware of the matter.
UGC had passed a regulation which penalized University by reducing their funds if found guilty of ragging.
Bullying at school
Bullying can happen at any age. That it is to say that it can happen to primary, secondary and higher secondary level students. It should be emphasized that people at any age can be victims of bullying and not just school or college. The school is a place to learn and grow. Perhaps even to get cultured to develop into ideal citizens of the country. School imbibes discipline and virtue in students. They are creator of national wealth.
Another very important point to understand is that victim and bully categories are not clearly defined. This means a child who is bullied in school can bully his/her siblings at home. There can be a definite possibility that person who was once bullied, can bully others later on. That is too say that a child during his early school years may be victim but becomes a bully as he/she grows up and bullies others in school, later on in life.
What to do if you are a parent and concerned about bullying ?
The most important factor is communication and oversight over children. Being engaged with them and being engaged with their day to day happenings in school. Mothers are very good at it and great at maintaining a comfort with children. My mother used to talk about my day to day school experiences. This helped me share my problems with her as and when it arose during my school days.
Be engaged with your child.
Observe him/her from time to time.
Invite his/her friends and form associations with them and their parents.
Be mindful of their general behavior when they are at home.
What to do if you are a student ?
As a student it’s a complex issue to deal with. No one solution can work here. But what to do when one is faced with a bully? I myself was bullied a lot in school. From many I’d like to share two experiences which were
School Teacher as bully
Student As bully
Unfortunate but a grim reality in many cases is that school teachers are bullies. I remember a case where I saw parents taking up class of a teacher who used to pick up this one student every time and make an example of him. On parent teachers day, I watched as his parents took class of the teacher. It was a sight to see. The point I am trying to make is that the best solution is to tell your parents.
When a peer/student bullies you,
- Tell your class teacher about it. No matter how embarrassing the situation is tell her/him. If she doesn’t listen then go up to the principle. I did this when my teacher was not listening. I went up to vice principal and told her about it. My problem was resolved as it was made sure that the bully maintained distance.
Yes, it dented my image where I was then understood as a weak individual but thankfully after the vice principal heard it, it was dealt with strictness and oversight measures which ensured that the boy who was bullying was taught a good lesson. Vice Principle had called parents of bully made sure they were made aware of their child’s idiocy. She also made an example of him by calling him out in during assembly and scolding him.
If you can’t talk to the teacher.
Then tell your parents. By keeping it to yourself it will only worsen. In my own experience one cannot escape a bully. They will find you and put you down for no reason. If you raise your voice you will get beaten if you are passive then your made an example for no reason.
From my experience there seems to be no escape from a bully. Example : I did it once in my life also I wished had done more. I stood up to 3 bullies at one time I fought them took a beating but felt good. After that they never took my case. But I don’t recommend it because not every case is the same. I suggest, that informing teachers, parents and higher authority is the best way to address it before it gets worse. Sure, you may be called out as weak or whinny but its its the solution that actually solves your case. Like I had mentioned that informing Vice principle was a good decision, I made a wise decision.
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