Do you feel you don’t have that many friends? Do you feel uncomfortable approaching people? Do you want to increase your friend circle but don’t know how? The answer to these questions is already with us. This article will talk about the tips and tricks of social networking. Read on to know more.
When we think of our circles of friends, we normally think of our close friends. Close friends being who we share most of our thoughts, troubles, and things with. They are the ones who we know we can trust with everything.
But the number of those close friends is usually low. And while the extroverts out there are great in networking skills. People who are introverts are less so skilled. In fact, they often get anxious about reaching out to people they barely know.
Do not worry as in this post we will talk about how to keep in touch and also maintain a layered level of friendships. In order to talk about different layers of friendship, we’ll use a reference from the chemistry of S-P-D-F orbitals.
S-P-D-F of Friendship
In chemistry, the S-P-D-F orbitals represent the behavior of atoms in their sub-shells. And each sub-shell, in a way represent the stability of an atom. Let me take the liberty of using ‘SPDF’, in the context of social networking here.
Let’s consider the S-P shell as representing your close-knit friends. Few people who are close to you. Now, these are the people who introverts don’t find any hesitation keeping in contact with. And this kind of social networking is also not taxing on the self.
However, it’s the other two orbitals of friends or acquaintances that we need to think about. These are people you meet but don’t have a regular touch with. You may feel at a certain point that you don’t have connections at all.
But you’d be wrong in thinking that way as we always have these connections. These are connections you know people slightly or may have met in passing. They may feel to you people of not much import.
But that is not the case as experts say that these weak connections are more likely to have different social circles. It means that you are more likely to find new ideas and opportunities in these weak ties.
Keeping a ‘Loose’ Touch
But how to keep these weak connections intact? There is a way and it can be called keeping a ‘loose touch’. It implies that you drop a casual ‘hi’ or ‘hello’ to such weak connections once in a while.
The objective here is to keep in touch them and let them know that you do have in mind their lives. You may ask what good can come out of this?
There are several reasons for this, for one in case of any setback in life – career wise for example – we tend to just focus on our strong ties. But the best way is to go to our weak or dormant ties. The reason being you are sure of your strong ties and the opportunities or help that they can give, and may not necessarily help.
But the weak ties or connections may have better opportunities or may be in a better position to help. Also, a random re-connection with a weak tie also makes you feel good about yourself.
So, whether you are an extrovert or an introvert, you should go about reconnecting with those weak connections of yours. You never know, when you can need help from such ties. So, grab that phone and send a ‘hi’ to a person to whom you have not talked to in a while. Till then cheers and keep exploring yourself with Brainpundits